Frances is here to give you three tips on how to build that confidence that everyone can have. All you have to do is decide to build your confidence and take action on that decision.
Us women dream of being the most confident we can be in every aspect of our lives, but especially socially. We imagine various scenarios where we can strike up a conversation with any handsome guy we come across. We dream about them thinking we are so interesting and attractive. We wish that after one conversation or one intense encounter he will be ours because we believe that it is that simple when we have true confidence.
Instead, we do not feel confident at all and are always second-guessing ourselves. Should I strike up a conversation? Was he looking over at me or some other girl behind me? He could not be interested in me because there are so many other better women out there that are better than me. I am not pretty enough, thin enough or smart enough. Sound familiar?
I’m here to give you three tips on how to build that confidence that everyone can have. All you have to do is decide to build your confidence and take action on that decision.
1. Do little things that scare you.
You do not have to climb Mount Everest to get confidence in life – you just have to take baby steps every day. All these baby steps add up. You realise that you are doing things that you never thought you never could because you get braver and braver. This is because you are re-wiring your brain’s neural pathways and it now registers that it is safe to do things that once scared you.
2. Make a list of every single thing you have ever achieved from when you were born to now
Add in everything from you learning how to talk, how to walk, finishing school, learning how to drive, all of it down to the tiniest thing. Make your list in 5-year segments. 0 to 5 years old, 5 to 10 years old, etc. Once you see this list you will be so amazed at yourself and your abilities you will instantly get a surge of confidence.
3. Set goals
Write them down in a copybook and keep it where you can look at them. They do not have to be huge goals. Start with little ones that you can achieve with a push. Gradually build to the bigger ones and break them down into chunks that you can tackle. When we achieve our goals and get the things that we want it, makes us more confident. This is because we can see and feel that we accomplished what we set out to do. This also inspires and motivates you to set and achieve more goals. It is a confidence-creating and building cycle. This continues until you no longer doubt yourself. You know you can do it because you have many times before.
By Frances Kelleher & Kayla Walsh Lifestyle Editor