“If a man is all in, he will be shouting it from the rooftops that he is with you! He will introduce you to his friends and family with gusto and let everyone know that you are his romantically,” says expert Frances Kelleher.
Dating is hard, there are no two ways about it. Sometimes we look at our partner and wonder if we are actually from two different planets – probably more often than we would like to admit.
Each individual expresses and shows their love in different ways, but did you know there’s a huge difference in how men and women show love? Knowing how and why men express themselves the way they do can lead to a more successful relationship.
We’ve got our resident dating coach Frances Kelleher on hand to talk us through it. Keep reading to see what Frances had to say…
“Men love differently from us and they express love differently. Once we know this, it makes all our lives easier and more fulfilling. Instead of feeling unloved, we can relax in the knowledge they are just expressing their love for us in a different way. The main ways men love you are by protecting you, providing for you, being territorial over you and trying to solve your problems.
“If anyone were attempting to hurt or harm you, they would do everything in their power to stop it not to mention they would risk getting hurt themselves to protect you.
“They would always be looking out for you to make sure you are safe. If anyone said anything against you, they would be the first to jump in to defend your honor.
Providing for you
“When a man loves you, he does not want you to go without. He wants to provide for you. A man who loves you will give you all he has. This makes him feel like a real man, a man that can hold his head high with pride. It is also, in a way, a form of protection because he is protecting you from financial hardship and stress.
Being territorial over you (Proclaiming you are his)
“If a man is all in, he will be shouting it from the rooftops that he is with you! He will introduce you to his friends and family with gusto and let everyone know that you are his romantically.
“He will do this as quickly as possible so that no other man can get the chance of locking you down first and to make sure too that you are willing to be his, so he has that peace of mind that the deal is done.
Trying to solve your problems
“Men want to solve our problems to make our lives better. They don’t want to listen to the problem, they just want to eradicate it for us so we will be happy again. That is why they can’t understand that sometimes we just want them to listen so we can vent.
“We don’t want a solution; we just want them to listen so we can offload and thus de-stress. So the next time he cuts you off mid-sentence during your story to offer you his solution, it is just his way of saying ‘I’m trying to love you by helping you find a solution.’
By Kathy Prendeville