Frances Kelleher talks us through what to look out for if it’s going to work long-term or whether it’s not meant to be.
So, you’ve finally found a guy that you connect with and you’ve been dating for a while. You have great chemistry and are really enjoying your time together – but how can you tell if he’s ‘the one’?
But is he your forever man? Dating coach Frances Kelleher shares six signs he might just be.
You can be yourself with him
A very important thing in a relationship is that you can be yourself and you can get that unconditional love from the man that you are with. A positive sign that you are with the right guy is that you can be completely yourself, flaws and all. He still loves you at your worst.
You have the same values
Values are what keep a relationship together. If the guy you are with is out drinking all night into the wee hours and you want to have a predictable family life with him it is unlikely it is going to work. Shared values and goals are some of the glue that makes for a lasting union. If he shares the same vision as you for the future, it is a good sign that you are compatible with the future.
You are comfortable just hanging out together
Being comfortable just being with a person and not feeling you have to be doing something or always having a conversation is a real sign of a deep connection. If you are equally at ease talking for hours or just being together in silence, then he could be the one.
I would say this is one of the first signs that you are in a healthy and solid relationship where he could be the one. If he treats you as well as your friends do, this shows he has your best interests at heart and not just his own. It means he is a respectful, caring person and he could have what it takes to be the one.
You’ve stopped looking
A powerful sign that you’ve found the one is if you feel the search is over. And that you’ve found what you are looking for. If you feel you could not find a better man. That he is your best friend. He is always there for you, and that you don’t want anyone else. Then this could mean he’s the one.
By Frances Kelleher & Kayla Walsh Lifestyle Editor