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Frances Kelleher | Dating Coach & Dating Expert | Ireland

Frances Kelleher Coaching

Multi-Award Winning Coach

The 3 Things Preventing You From Finding A Real Relationship

The 3 Things Preventing You From Finding A Real Relationship

Life in general can block you from finding your ideal partner. But most of the time it’s you that creates the block. Let’s talk about the 3 things preventing you from finding a real relationship. These are the main things that I see constantly that hinder people from finding the right person.

  1. You are still hung up on your ex.

I know this is a tough one. When you really connect with someone on every level it is hard to think how this magic could ever happen again. The truth is that it can. There is not just one person for all of us.

There are 8 billion people on the planet. I have seen it time and time again that someone’s hearts is completely broken. With time and hope they go onto meet another person that they love even more. Then winding up happier than they ever were with their ex.

When moving on its best to immediately get rid of all traces of that person. Not in a hateful way, but in a “I send you on your way with peace and love” way. If all your space (emotional, physical and mind) is taken up by your ex, there will be no room for the new person.

  1. You are holding out hope for someone you already like.

You have met someone already that you really like and are hoping that it will lead to something solid. So you don’ t date anybody else.and stay single. They might be stringing you along, breadcrumbing or even have submarined you.

Or might just be in your life at a distance, yet you have a place set at the table in your heart hoping someday they will show up for dinner. When you do this, you are rejecting everybody else in the process.

To move on you need to keep an open mind and date other people. Have faith that there is a bigger master plan. Usually someone better suited for you comes along. Sometimes when you do start dating someone else that person that you were holding out for realizes that they really do want you after all.

  1. You are with the wrong person.

This is the most dangerous situation because people that string you along can waste years of your life. Taking away what could be the best and easiest years for you to meet someone. This is someone who does not appreciate you. They are not 100% all in, yet they keep you on the line.

This is because they are not sure you are the one for them. Sometimes it could be because they don’t want to be alone or maybe they are just keeping their options open. Either way they are wasting your precious time. They are standing in the way of you meeting the right person who will adore you and who will be all in.

To move on you need to leave the relationship immediately because they never will. Trusting this half-hearted relationship is a waste of time. Looking out for the 3 things preventing you from finding a real relationship will ultimately lead you to the right person.